Thursday, December 22, 2016

Upstanders

After a grueling self-analysis, I've discovered that if someone were to meet me for the first time, they would believe that I am an upstander based on my social media posts. An upstander is someone who takes a stand against negativity and bullying. In my examples, I am seen being an upstander by retweeting a mother and daughter who are stuck in Aleppo. This shows an example of an upstander since I am bringing awareness to a terrible doing that is happening in the world. Another execution of me being an upstander is my tweeting #ThankfulThursday posts to friends, family, and inspirations. Personally, I believe that this is the action of an upstander because it displays positivity and instigates kindness in others.
Family in Aleppo

#ThankfulThursday tweets

If I were being bullied, I feel as though I would be equally offended by the words of the bully and the people who witnessed it and didn't do anything. Although the words are originally the bully's and not the bystander's, by witnessing and not reporting/helping, the words can be interpreted as the bystander's. Another reason that this would be so offending is because the victim might start believing that what the bully said is true since no one is disagreeing. Bullying takes a mental toll on the victim and by the bystanders furthering it, no one knows how the victim may be reacting.

I believe that social media has effectively furthered bullying. People who are non confrontational may find it easier to harass other's online. This gives them the power to bully their victim extensively and repeatedly. Social media gives people confidence they didn't know they had, and they could use this new found terror in negative ways. On the other hand, it can make people feel worse about themselves and they could take that out on other's who "have what they want". 

YouTube allows viewers to give a video a "thumbs up" or "thumbs down". This is a form of bullying because someone could feel attacked by the "thumbs down" vote. The video creator could feel bullied from this because they most likely put lots of time and effort into this video. The "thumb up" vote could make the creator feel good about themselves, but sometimes, the "thumbs down" vote outdoes the positive vote.

In a perfect world, we wouldn't need to worry about bystander, perpetrators, and upstanders because there would be no bullying. In the world we live in, we need to keep enforcing the importance of upstanders.